What did you do today to bring you one step closer to your goal?
In the world of today, every being has got a goal in their life. When I say ‘Every Being’ , both the Bill Gates (the most successful man in the world) and a single ant count in the box. Undoubtedly, the most excessive achievement an ant can want from a life is to prepare the whole winter’s food during spring time, which obviously seems like drinking water from Bill Gate’s side of view.But, as long as you believe in yourself for achieving goals, remember that, the size and quality of the goal is just a measure of other’s outlook.
Have you ever thought about what usually distracts your focus out of the circle of your Goal Utopia?
Well, what I learned over the course of my life, by being the champion of right and victim of wrong choices, and noticing the way people fetch their goals, is that, that’s not the right way to achieve your goals. And no one ever mentions the exact address of How To Achieve Our Goals?
Before searching for tips and formulas of achieving goals, first stick to this very important part of this topic:
Don’t Focus On Your Goals:
This is probably against every statement you have ever heard when it comes to goals. As a matter of fact, we are usually being taught pretty repetitive tricks about achieving goals; starting from setting a specific goal, to writing them down on a piece of paper, staying focused on, and checking them over and over again which most of the times turns out with no actual result.
But what I have realized, however, is that when it comes to get something done or to cope with whatever obstacles that encounter you, there is a much better trick for getting through each decision you take. It’s called,
Focus On Your Behavior Instead Of Your Goals
First let me explain the Difference between Goal and Behavior:
- If you are a student, your goal is to get an A in a class, your behavior is the time management you set for your studies.
- If you are a body-builder, your goal is to win the championship, your behavior is the training schedule you follow everyday.
- If you are a movie director, your goal is to get the highest amount of buyers of your movie, your behavior is managing the actors reservedly during shooting times.
Now that you have learned the difference between goal and behavior, do you think following these steps still can give you results?
We set goals for ourselves, but our goals are things that are outside of our control.
As I mentioned before if we take the example of a student, eventually every student wants to pass the test and receive an ‘A’ on his papers. Gaining an ‘A’ and passing the exam is a state of mind which is out of control. A common student cannot pass the test just by thinking about passing and getting acceptable marks. What actually helps him is to focus on his habits he has towards his studies. Waking up every morning thinking and stressing himself out about the ‘A’ he is supposed to get, on the very first sight decreases his happiness, self confidence and focus. The goal he has set for himself to get acceptable marks is something imaginary and outside of his control. He cannot write A’s on all of his papers, that’s the teacher’s job. Someone else is setting the curriculum. Someone else has been assigned to grade his papers and home-works. But if he train himself to take to take control of his behaviors rather than the goal, it will be more helpful.
Why You Should Avoid Focusing On Your Goal?
1_Goals Decrease Current Happiness
Probably whenever you set a specific goal for yourself, you don not trust your abilities. You doubt on yourself and say, “I cannot do this anymore, it seems so difficult for me, I will not be able to get through it well…” And all kinds of negative thoughts cross your mind. Why?
Because yet you are at the beginning of the path to your goal. You are thousand miles away from it. The distance between you and your goal makes your goal almost invisible and impossible to be achieved. That’s why if you focus on the path to your goal whether how many steps you gotta take each minute, you will get better results.
2_Goals Make You Believe You Can Control Things You Cannot
No-one is genius enough to cope with all the obstacles and circumstances that will arise along the way to achieving goal.
Imagine you have gained extra weight passed the year, and you set a goal with yourself to start dieting and exercising everyday. On the starting days of your diet, you are the most energetic person of your life and undoubtedly all the time you tell yourself, “I should exercise everyday, I should quite eating unhealthy, I should lose 10 pounds in 10 days…” And all kinds of these.
Actually this is a wrong mindset, you cannot predict the future whether how many times you are going to get sick and won’t be able to attend gym, how many times you will have to go to parties and eat unhealthy for a meal, how many times you will be inevitable to skip your exercise. Therefore, if you miss one day of your exercise due to any priority, you better not feel like a loser because no-one can predict what situations and circumstances encounter them to take control of each one.
So, forget the mentality which teaches you not to fall down, instead focus on your behaviors and learn how to stand up back proudly every time. As a matter of fact, we are all human, too much expectations from ourselves can turn out disappointing.
Take Care Of Your Behavior
None of the upper tips means that goals are useless. However, I’ve found that goals are good for planning your improvements and focusing on behavior is good for actually making improvements.
Goals can provide direction and even push you forward in the short-term, but eventually a well-trained behavior will always win.
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